A common pitfall after you’ve made a decision is to look back and wonder if it was the right one to make. It’s easy to second guess yourself and be curious what would have happened if you had chosen the other path. Being stuck in indecision can also keep you from starting down the Path in the first place: constantly unsure that you’re choosing the right way.
If you are frozen by indecision and keep running back and forth between possible paths without starting the journey down either of them, here are a few things to keep in mind:
There is no one right Path
It is important to remember that there is often not a clear “right” or “wrong” decision, with one Path that leads you to greatness and the other to destruction. That means that, in some cases, either option could be the “right” Path and it becomes the right one in the act of choosing it.
The main thing to keep in mind is if this decision will help you get to your Transcendent There. If both options in front of you do this and align with your values, then you can’t go wrong. Don’t let your indecision about the “right” Path keep you from moving down a Path at all.
All journeys will have Pits
So let’s say you decided between two great job offers and have been working at the new company for a few months. Busy season has hit and you’re stressed out and find yourself wishing you had taken the other job so that you wouldn’t have this stress right now.
But that’s a fallacy we tell ourselves: that just because something is difficult that has to mean that it’s bad or that we made the wrong decision. But all Paths will encounter road blocks. There is no Project Mood Curve that does not land you in the Pit at some point. If you had chosen the other job, there is a good chance that at some point you would have experienced this same indecision and wished you had chosen this one instead. So, persevere through the Pit to get to the other side, knowing that just because something is hard doesn’t mean that it’s wrong.
Paths often intersect
Finally, when choosing between multiple good things, it can be hard to put aside one for the sake of the other, especially when it can feel like such a final decision. But maybe it’s better to think about prioritizing one over the other for a time instead of saying yes to one and completely throwing away the other.
After all, the There-Here-Path is not straight or linear, and paths can intersect and double back on each other. Just because you choose one option for now doesn’t mean that the other option, or a similar one, won’t ever appear again.
Gracie McBride is the Content and Systems Coordinator at The Crossroad.
